Would You Pay Big Bucks

To Make The Perfect Match?

By Sierra Silverspoon

According to the National Enquirer, Oprah’s BFF, Gayle King is embroiled in a serious misunderstanding with one of the highest priced matchmakers in Beverly Hills. Beverly Hills Matchmaker Orly Hadida is out for revenge because she says Gayle reneged on a verbal promise. According to reports, Ms. Hadida filed a breach of contract lawsuit against Gayle King, after Gayle promised to get her on The Oprah Show, if Orly found her a man. Reportedly, Orly waived her usual $500,000 fee to help Gayle’s love life in exchange for an appearance on the popular show. The lawsuit was thrown out after the woman claimed that Gayle approached her because she was desperate to find “a man like Oprah’s boyfriend Stedman.” Gayle countersued, and the judge ruled that oral contracts involving dating services were not enforceable. The matchmaker claimed she set up at least five dates for Gayle with attractive wealthy men, which Gayle rejected.

This incident threw a serious spotlight on the many high-end matchmaking services and personal matchmakers that charge big bucks to find mates for affluent men and women. Research shows that the personal matchmakers are usually women who parlayed their natural talent for hooking up their friends into a very profitable business. The fees for personal matchmakers run from $5000 per match to $100,000 and more.

These prices are not related to actual matchups that succeed in getting married. These prices deal with introductions only. Do affluent black singles spend big bucks to meet Mr. or Ms. Right. They do. A 32 year old female attorney who wished to remain anonymous, told me how she spent over $10,000 last year with a very upscale personal matchmaker, who hooked her up with three matches. “All guys were professional and polished, but neither of them fit what I was looking for. I felt like I wasted my money, but I was in a frame of mind at that time that urged to explore and be more adventurous about finding Mr. Right. I was tired of all the mismatched encounters I’d been having, so I decided to do something different. I could afford it, so I did it.”

Carla, (not her real name), a corporate executive for a major company told me she spent $8,000.00 to meet “a man of stature and means,” but it didn’t happen. She met two guys who ended up being con men looking for a woman of means. She was very impressed with the third guy, but the feeling wasn’t mutual. She signed up for four matches, but the fourth one never materialized. In the end, she received a partial refund of $2000.00.

Studies show that affluent women and very rich men are more prone to pay a professional matchmaker to hook them up with that ideal person that they couldn’t meet otherwise. These types are usually too busy and far removed from the usual pick up a date scene. They rely on personalized introductions, either professionally or socially.

I did a short poll among some real upscale brothers to check if they could ever see themselves paying big bucks for a romantic introduction. They all answered no emphatically. However, when I polled the same number of women, they all answered yes if tey were able to look through a catalog first.